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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • This is so common it has a name, it’s called banner blindness.

    One of the important aspects of interface design is supposed to be not showing alerts for everything, so that when they pop up you feel compelled to pay attention.

    Not long ago a nurse killed an older woman by giving her the wrong medicine; she took accountability but called out that the software they use provides so many alerts that (probably unofficial) policy was to just click through them to get to treating the patient. One of those alerts was a callout that the wrong dosage was selected and she zoomed right by it out of habit.




  • I am not a current or ex incel—I came from the front page out of curiosity—but I feel the need to weigh in on this.

    I have a black belt in a mixed martial art, I’ve been active in it for many years as a student and as a teacher, and I strongly feel that martial arts can offer a positive improvement to just about every person.

    I joined martial arts because I was severely depressed going through a divorce and custody battle; I was going from work to the bar and then home. My life felt meaningless and I very literally woke up one day and realized that if I didn’t change something I was going to kill myself. I joined a local dojo that day.

    Martial arts is special. It certainly gives you a place to vent out some frustrations in a safe, productive way… but if you find yourself a good dojo it can be so much more.

    Martial arts boosted my confidence massively; it made me feel better about myself and who I am by giving me regular positive interactions with many other people. Belts are earned from hard work, and the experience of being handed that next rank provides a measurable improvement to guide you.

    Eventually you start to be the upper belt and get to guide newer people through the same benefits you’ve seen, which feels great. If you go as far as me you may get to stand in front of the class as an expert and feel the healthy respect of a group of people, earned through dedication and the relationships you have formed with them.

    Martial arts made me a better person, and better man, a better father, and helped me live a more well rounded and happy life.

    Normally I end this little rant there, but if you are an incel and you are looking to get out I will add one more benefit: women go to class too, and if you want positive role model women to help break you out of a cycle of negativity I can think of no better example than an upper-belt woman who you can interact with in a structured environment. Most people in a dojo are pretty chill and happy to help, they also tend to have high confidence in the upper ranks and aren’t looking to prove anything anymore. It’s a pretty fantastic way to form new friendships that will challenge everything the incel community has convinced you is true.









  • Was there a claim of lack of output that I didn’t see? I admittedly skimmed this.

    I was under the impression that the only issue was that they weren’t in their seats when they were supposed to be, which is so fucking stupid I struggle to find words to describe it.

    I am a manager, people report to me. I judge if they’re working effectively based on their output, and as long as the output is what the job requires I could not care less when they’re at their desks. They’re being paid to get work done, not sit in their seats.

    Some jobs do require that you sit in your seat for x hours a day, but we shouldn’t pretend all jobs do.