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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • Tough one. As has already been mentioned, there has to be a clear line where the kids are involved - that is to say, are you going to be there for them or not?

    If it’s the latter, that’s not an issue. Declaring that from the outset isn’t a drama - single parents aren’t suddenly robots and enjoy the affection, sex, and friendship too. There’s no expectation beyond that and a few hot dates, and if it does start to cross red lines then there’s a clear reason to start nosediving it into the sea.

    I think leading a parent on though to the point where you’re introduced to the kids and become a part of their life, and then drop the bombshell that you’re after the casual or physical side of things means your actions have caught more than just the pair of you in the blast, and that just sucks.

    Honesty isn’t hard, and most of the time it’s pretty hot!

    e for context: I use “you” in the assumption that you’re looking to date a parent - reframe it to your own view :)








  • I find it quite handy - it’s a bit excessive on nearly every post, but it does add context when I don’t recognise the news source, and it’s useful to see whether I really need to do some more digging on the article rather than should look for other views on a story.

    It’s frustrating to see a comment or two on a post preview pane you’re interested in though and boom, it’s a bot rather than another user to engage with.

    It would work really well as a plug in or tool, giving you inline information in the post itself.











  • Coffee shops are fantastic. My other half doesn’t get why I go out to buy a coffee that I could easily make in the house for next to fuck all, but it was never about the coffee - it was about being out of the house and watching the world go by. There’s a coffee shop in a hotel that overlooks the thoroughfare between one of my local city’s biggest shopping centres and it’s rail station, and it’s nice just wasting an hour or two watching people go about their lives.

    The cost of the coffee is just a warmth and comfort tax really for sitting there.


  • Good effort, that’s a decent shape to be in. 10k runs are my “thing” but as my march into middle age progresses, I find I can’t do them back-to-back any more, I’m needing more than a day or two to recover.

    Maybe go for something a little more varied - I’m training for (but never done) local triathlons. Great way to build physical fitness with only a third of the high impact on the joints. The major limiting factor will be the pool of course, unless you’re fortunate to own (or have unrestricted access to) a pool.

    Random turn of conversation direction, are you creative at all? Crocheting seems to make the world go by at an alarming rate - it’s both a time killer and very rewarding.


  • Unfortunately, this would be gender and/or location dependent. Great advice for daylight hours, but the society we currently live in makes it perhaps less viable for women in certain areas or countries, or even in general if it’s a particularly socially deprived area.

    Absolutely on board with the exercise thing though. I’ve taken to trying to waste time on an exercise bike - even an inexpensive one, or a normal bike mounted on a turbo trainer. I’m not expecting anyone to bang in speeds and times like Lance Armstrong on some special supplements, but a slow spin for longer periods of time is great fun… just get a good wide comfortable saddle!