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  • GiveMemes@jlai.lutoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldThat explains it.
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    5 days ago

    Are we really equivocating catcalling, in which a woman has immediate and relevant fears for her physical safety, and some gross comments online?

    Like when somebody tells me they’re gonna rape me in a video game lobby, I don’t appreciate their language but I’m not legitimately fearful.



  • GiveMemes@jlai.lutoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldThat explains it.
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    7 days ago

    I also understand consequences for actions. If it was a private insta page, that’s one thing, and I don’t necessarily support these men’s actions nor would I take them myself, insofar as the thirsty comments, but if I posted a picture of myself that was purposefully sexy publicly, those are the comments I have to be prepared to get. I really don’t think your argument holds weight, as the consent is done when they post the image publicly to a place with public comments. That was the choice they made. I think that if somebody’s pictures are leaked or something, that’s totally different, but just insofar as public forums… yeah no




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    7 days ago

    You’re treating the symptoms as the causes dude. If we had more open discussion about these things I don’t think such issues would be as commonplace.

    If people understood more of what victims of rape go through, they’re much less likely to view consent as a hazy line.

    I go to many places where sexuality is celebrated rather than shamed and because of that it’s much less of a big deal. At one music festival I went to there were coed communal showers. I was kind of nervous but I headed down. Got in there and everybody was laughing and singing, sudsing each other up with soap, etc. This wasn’t because it was some kind of huge orgy, but rather that everybody was comfortable with the nudity and we were having fun together in a totally non sexual way, in my opinion only made possible by the openness everybody had about sexuality there.

    We are sexual creatures (except ace people), ain’t no two ways about it. Keeping sex taboo does nothing to prevent the problems you’re describing. It’s like the Islamic extremists who think the only way to protect women is by taking away their rights, making their beauty a taboo, etc. And still, these places have their own problems with rape anyway, so clearly that doesn’t work.