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Cake day: June 6th, 2023

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  • My main issue with games as a whole currently is that they often don’t respect my time. J-RPGs are probably the worst genre for that with the expectation of grinding being baked in. Take persona 5, I loved the style and the characters were engaging but the gameplay was very repetitive and grindy. I didn’t feel like I was making progress. After I beat the first dungeon I felt like I’d seen everything the game had to offer and turned it off.

    I enjoy western RPGs more because they often (not always) respect my time better. I replayed Dragon age Inquisition recently and that game was right on the borderline of not respecting my time. I played it way closer to release and burned out by spending 40 hours in the starting area doing fetch quests. On this play through I focused on the story and only did side quests I found interesting. It was much better but still right on the limit of wasting my time for a decent chunk of it’s runtime.



  • I don’t feel I’ve given them a pass. I feel like I’ve set boundaries where I can tolerate/ enjoy their presence without being subjected to their hateful or stupid beliefs. It was a difficult decision for me and I seriously considered not having a relationship with them at all for a long time. But I’d miss out on time with my baby nephew, my elderly gran and my siblings who all live near my parents (the main culprits) and I decided that the relationships were more important to me than winning an argument.

    To continue your addict analogy, you might agree to hang out with your addict friend on the condition they come sober and don’t take drugs whilst you’re together. Rather than just saying you take drugs so we aren’t friends now.

    The world is rarely black and white.



  • I know where your coming from. My parents feel right down the racist conspiracy theory rabbit hole during Brexit and COVID. I was working in the hospital watching people and colleagues die regularly and my dad was telling me it’s just flu and all a hoax to scare people, they convinced my 90 year old grandma to not get the vaccine. We had a lot of fights. Eventually after a lot of reflecting I decided that having a relationship with my family was more important than winning an argument so now we just have a selection of topics I refuse to engage with, just say let’s move on and change the topic. I found it really hard to see the people who raised me fall into racist rhetoric and conspiracy theory thinking, these people taught me to be a good person and now have some glaring holes in their compassion for others. I struggled with that for a long time.