…ideally one that was both genuine and that you had the confidence and self awareness to interpret as kind. And for bonus points, what’s one you’ve given?
I’m thinking back to the guy in group therapy years ago who told me he always thought of people who swore as not knowing any better words, but that I obviously knew better words and just also swore and even used them artistically and that’s just really stuck with me. Sometimes I wonder how much of my self esteem has suffered not just because I’ve been told not to brag, but also because I’m extremely weird so the compliments I do receive often reflect that.
My bonus one (and I’m not sure how well he was able to take it) was that one of my fellow psych nurses was frequently and obviously terrified any time shit hit the fan, but that somehow still he’d never once failed to have my back. He’d be stuttering the whole way through an incident but I’d walk out of the med room with both halves of a B52 and he’d take one of the syringes without a second thought. He was literally the epitome of “courage isn’t not being scared, it’s being willing to face it.” I should find a nice presentation of that quote somewhere to send him because I’m not sure I phrased it well at the time.
A neighbor saw me walking barefoot to my mailbox and complimented me on my healthy feet.
Hackles went up thinking he was some foot fetishist who was going to get weird on me. Nope, just a medical person of some sort that works with feet a lot and I genuinely have healthy arches and mobile toes. At least I choose to believe that explanation he gave. Otherwise, I have to assume my neighbor is jerking it every time I walk outside.
Obligatory: Please post feet pics. I’m a bit of a foot-doctor myself.
Hawt. I mean, you have very healthy toes or something. Bonus points for not needing woolen socks.
Stop. I can only get so erect.
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Well, I don’t know that my feet are that great but they aren’t shedding any sort of cheese.
Outside… Watching my neighbor get the mail… Straight up archin it… And by it… I mean my feets
I was in my early 20s and was visiting a friend’s house. His wife had a friend visiting that I’d never met. We were introduced and the first words she said to me were “Do you know your features are wasted on a guy?” and then went on to provide specific details.
We were married a year later. And that was 30 years ago.
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Guy here: I have had multiple female friends and girlfriends tell me I have beautiful eyelashes that they are jealous of.
I still find it weird… like I understand it is a compliment and that they genuinely wish that they had such natural lashes…
Probably I just have too many core memories about being bullied for it by guys in high school and middle school.
Man what happened to men’s fashion? We went from heels and frills to grey on black and it’s awful.
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Whats a switch
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How do people like that thing where the lady steps on your balls in high heels? How could that ever feel good?
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That’s so insanely true. Women have IMO much more fashion options than men. WR have jeans, sweater and T-Shirt(maybe a tank top).
Blame this mother fucker from the revolutionary times for inventing the suit.
I got my leg fucked up in a hot sandy land far away. While I was doing rehab I used a cane and walked with a limp. One day I was walking out of an HEB in Houston when a dude dressed like Huggy Bear told me he liked my strut and then told me to “keep on pimpen playa.”
In retrospect, it sort of makes sense as my limp with the cane looked like I was doing that stereotypical pimp walk but at the time I was very confused lol
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I was dancing at a club a couple years ago and someone came up to me and yelled without pause “Are you a boy or a girl you’re gorgeous”
that sounds like a fantastic compliment! your beauty is universal 😮😍
The best I’ve ever received! 🥰
From a French colleague:
“You are the kind of Italian we like in France.”
“Wonderful, but I’m American.”
“I doubt that”
I’ve had something similar quite a few times.
Meet someone, talk for a bit, “where are you from?” u.s. “really? You don’t seem American”
They meant it as a compliment
Is there anywhere in the world where this isn’t a compliment?
“You look like a spy” Which is sadly why my career as a spy never got off the ground.
I was told I looked like a cop several times back when I associated with less desirable parts of society. I think the reason they felt that way is because I showered daily, combed my hair, and had an acceptable level of personal hygiene.
A PTA mom once told me that she’d commit murder for my hair.
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I had to have an abdominal ultrasound done once and the tech told me I have a great pancreas, “the most beautiful she’s ever seen”. I didn’t know what to say but it made me happy.
Hide Your pancreas
A decade ago, I was walking a few blocks to get a burger, passed by a bar with an outdoor section.
A fairly sloshed guy stared me up and down, looked at his female friend, back at me and asked “Hey, are you trisexual?”
Being extremely awkward, significantly autistic, and apparently sufficiently twink, I responded “…sure?”
Guy got up and kissed me on the cheek.
I told him to have a nice night and went to get my burger.
…
So… yeah. That was the night I discovered what a ‘twink’ is, that I am apparently a twink, and explains all the times I’ve been catcalled by other dudes.
A shame that I am (basically) straight and only seem to date women who cheat on me or have immense mental health problems.
This guy once told me “Your hair looks small” as a compliment… I still dont’t know what to make of it.
It’s an It’s Always Sunny reference!
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A friend of mine said I had a very good hugging-body. I always pictured huggable dudes as big, but I was really lean back then. She said it was because my lanky body somehow automatically fit the shape of her hugs somehow.
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She was my GFs bestie. Her BF was my friend. So yes, it was purely platonic.
An ex from a meaningful, but fraught relationship tried to seduce me a few months after we had broken up. In the interim, I had started dating someone new, and I rejected the advances.
My ex was angry and lashing out. She said a few random insults about my new partner (implying she had manipulated me with sex), before finally saying “well, I hope she enjoys your magical penis!” (It’s not magical. The tiny wizard hat is purely for decoration.)
Would you say it’s a monument?
I hooked up with someone at a party and they told my sister I have a big dick, loudly, in a room full of people that know me.
It can go the other way. Long before we got married, my wife hooked up with a guy to an unsatisfactory conclusion. Whatever. But years later she had a medical emergency and needed a ride to the hospital. One of the EMTs I think, or maybe a nurse idk, happened to be the guy. She was all kinds of fucked up on whatever they gave her and she’s like, “I remember you. You have a small penis. So small and cute!”
His coworkers tried not to laugh but…
That poor man.
Did someone call an ambulance for him? Because she straight up annihilated him.
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Oh, well I should clarify that it’s not actually big, but it is skinny.
I will never forget being at a party in my twenties and overhearing a girl I had hooked up with telling two other girls about my dick. It’s a shame I didn’t have the confidence then that I have now.
A random black man at the pool yelled at me that I look exactly like Emilio Estevez. I didn’t know what to say
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The Mighty Duck man!! 🙌
“I like your butt hair.”
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OK, that’s truely weird.
When I date, I seem to usually end up dating women who enjoy a hairy man.
Is it? Some like it hairy.
